Floggers....and Paddles....and Whips....
OH MY!!!

Come On In!

We’re glad you could stop by a for a visit!

Pull up the chair and make yourself comfy, we hope you enjoy what follows and perhaps gain some insight into the practice of BDSM.  Should you have any comments or questions regarding the information you find on these page, please don't hesitate to contact us by signing the guest book or dropping us an e-mail at swdandsun@zensearch.net  We'd love to hear from you!

These pages are devoted to the subject of BDSM. There are a great many websites covering this topic, but we think you might find these somewhat different from what you’ve already seen (at least we hope so!).

A Bit About Us.

SunTzu and Swddancer are the nicknames we use on the net. We're both in our 40's, parents of three incredible teenagers and have a variety of interests to keep us out of trouble (usually!)

Sun and I are married and have been for 20 years. We have bills to pay, jobs we go to each morning, and like every other couple in a relationship we have day to day problems to face (like who will pick up the kids after soccer practice). Basically we are normal. Ok....so we’re kinky and perverted, but that doesn't mean we aren't very nice people!

The reason we decided to put together this website was to provide information to other long term couples who are just beginning to explore BDSM as a part of their love/lifestyle. When we first started out we found plenty of sites that focused on cyber situations, finding subs, finding Doms, disciplining slaves, first time meetings etc etc etc.  What we had trouble finding were sites that focused exclusively on turning a perfectly good vanilla relationship into something a little more erotic, a little more satisfying and a little something different.

Let's start with what you WON'T find on these pages:  

You won’t find pornography or descriptions of scenes we have done. (you might want to go elsewhere if this is what you were looking for)

• You won’t find poems dedicated "Master" and his supreme Domliness (sorry, I don't do poetry.)
• You won’t find detailed descriptions SunTzu's discipline techniques for subs/slaves.
• You won't find "slave contracts" (we have a marriage license... that's as much contract as we need)
• And finally, you won’t find essays on how spiritually uplifting dominance and submission can be.

What you WILL find is:

• Frank down to earth information on what BDSM is and is not.
• Some suggestions on telling your partner about your interests.
• Suggestions for the BDSM novice (focusing on those already in a long-term relationship)
• Information on one couple’s transition from vanilla to chocolate swirl.
• Thoughts on separating the fiction from reality
• Some helpful hints on dealing with problems that invariably crop up (no pun intended) when making the transition.
• Ideas on how to be kinky when you have kids.
• Information on making and finding some wonderful play toys (and you thought you were too old  for a toy box!)
• A listing of some great books about BDSM
• A listing of some of our favorite links
• Suggestions on contacting others who share your interests

So..... take a look....think about it.....
and most of all…. Enjoy!

©copyright by swddancer July 1999