Things to do today

This is to help negotiate a specific scene, particularly a first scene, as opposed to general interests. Check boxes for desired activities or put numbers (1=highest priority).
   [ ] collar (temporary)
       [ ] leather  (dog)  [ ] chain/lock

   [ ] Flogging
       [ ] Butt [ ] Thighs [ ] Genitals [ ] Breasts [ ] Shoulders
       [ ] Floggers (thud) [ ] Floggers (sting) [ ] Canes
       [ ] Crop [ ] Paddle [ ] Hand  [ ] Brushes  [ ] belt
       [ ] light  [ ] moderate  [ ] hard
 
       [ ] Pain as pain: rapid buildup, more erratic timing
       [ ] Pain as pleasure Gradual buildup, steady application

   [ ] Tickling

   [ ] Bondage 
       [ ] restrictive [ ] non-restrictive
       [ ] escapable   [ ] inescapable
       [ ] Vertical  [ ] Horizontal  [ ] Bed  [ ] Chair  [ ] Exam table
       [ ] Bent over [ ] Kneeling (padded)
       [ ] rope dress

   [ ] Mummification

   [ ] Hot Wax

   [ ] Ice  

   [ ] Hair pulling
      [ ] light/symbolic  [ ] medium  [ ] hard

   [ ] Knife play (no cutting)

   [ ] Shaving

   [ ] play piercing (temporary)  Where: ____________________________

   [ ] Light fireplay          

   [ ] Electrical play
       [ ] Violet wand   [ ] TENS   Where: __________________________

   [ ] Service (beverages, etc, presentation).

   [ ] Medical exam

   [ ] enema

   [ ] Stand in corner  [ ] Cage (not yet availible)

    - clamps
       Breasts:   [ ] clothespins   [ ] Nipple clamps
       genitals:  [ ] clothespins   [ ] clips
       elsewhere: [ ] clothespins

   [ ] Blindfold
   [ ] Gags
      [ ] ball (small) [ ] bit/bridle  [ ] cloth (over mouth)
      [ ] Tape                         [ ] cloth (in mouth)  
      [ ] oversize/mouth stuffing
      [ ] loose enough to push out with tongue

   [ ] Food play   [ ] insertion  [ ] external  [ ] taste/eat
      [ ] spoon feeding, etc. [ ] top serves bottom  [ ] bottom serves top
      [ ] meal

   [ ] Sleep over   (Set alarm for ______________)  

   [ ] Hot tub    [ ] soak   [ ] fool around   [ ] sex
       [ ] before   [ ] during   [ ] after

    - Physical Intimacy/stimulation during Play
      [ ] Kissing   
      [ ] Biting    
      [ ] licking (other than primary erogenous zones)
      Breasts: 
         [ ] Carressing [ ] Licking/sucking [ ] Biting
         [ ] pinching  [ ] twisting  [ ] bulling
      Genitals
          [ ] Manual stimulation of genitals  
          [ ] Manual penetration of genitals  
          [ ] flogging  
          [ ] dildo   [ ] vibrator  
          [ ] penile penitration (condom)
          [ ] cunnilingus (bottom receiving)
          [ ] feather  [ ] ice   [ ] heat  [ ] irritants
          [ ] gentle  [ ] rough 
      Ass Play
          [ ] Manual stimulation
          [ ] Dildo    [ ] Vibrator   [ ] Plug
          [ ] Manual penetration
          [ ] penile penetration (condom)
          [ ] Analingus (bottom receiving)
      [ ] Oral Service (giving)
          [ ] unlubricated condom
          [ ] ejaculation/swallowing
      
   - orgasm control
     [ ] denial
     [ ] control
     [ ] I will come if/when I damn well please

  [ ] Silent alarm  (bottom checks in with friend)

     [ ] Specific times __________________  Interval: ________

   - Crying
     [ ] stop immediately   [ ] check in  [ ] normal part of mindset

   - Safewords/signals
     [ ] Plain communication (I mean what I say)
     [X] "Safeword"
     [ ] Red (stop NOW, option to resume)  Yellow (slow down)  Green (More!!!)
     [ ] Top's name
     [ ] Bottom's name
     [ ] "Aardvark"
     [ ] "Time out" (take everything seriously till "time in")
     [ ] "Simon Sez" (next statement taken seriously)
     [ ] Checkin:  [ ] two hand squeezes, two hand squeezes back if ok
     [ ] SOS (grunt, etc). 
     [ ] The sound of one hand clapping
     [ ] Dropping object held for this purpose

   - Elements
     [ ] Domination/submission
     [ ] Bondage
     [ ] Discipline      [ ] Punishment   [ ] Training
     [ ] Smart ass massochist
     [ ] Sadism/masochism
     [ ] Consentual Non-consensual elements
        [ ] minor   [ ] durress/peer pressure  [ ] mild force  [ ] strong force
        [ ] Blackmail  [ ] Authority figure
        [ ] verbal resistance  [ ] physical resistance  


   - Sex
     [ ] Masturbation
         [ ] do ourselves   [ ] do each other  [ ] top only  [ ] bottom only
     [ ] Oral 
         [ ] Top serving bottom  [ ] Bottom serving top  [ ] 69
     [ ] Vaginal   
         [ ] penile    [ ] manual   [ ] Dildo  [ ] vibrator
     [ ] Anal
         [ ] penile    [ ] manual   [ ] Dildo  [ ] vibrator
      - Bottom is
        [ ] passive   [ ] active

   [ ] Name Calling  (sample words)
       [ ] naughty  [ ] nasty  [ ] slut  [ ] bitch  [ ] whore
       [ ] tramp  [ ] harlot  [ ] cunt  [ ] cheap  [ ] expensive :-)

       Other words you particularly like:  _______________________

       Other words you particularly dislike: _____________________

   [ ] Protection  (top may increase)
       [ ] Condoms (vaginal/anal penetration)
       [ ] oral (on male)
           [ ] unlubricated condom  [ ] no condom
           [ ] Cum in mouth ok  [ ] swallowing
       [ ] Gloves
       [ ] Dental Dams or equivalent for cunnilingus
       [ ] Dental Dams or equivalent for anallingus
       [ ] Cum inside  [ ] Cum outside (on body)

    - STD's
      - Do you currently have any known STDs or reason to suspect

         that you may?   _________________________________________

      - When was the last time you were tested for STDs?  ___________

    - Birth control
      - Are you currently using some form of birth control? ___________

   [ ] Role play
       [ ] Interegation [ ] Intruder  [ ] Abducter 
       [ ] Deflowering [ ] relative  [ ] initiation/hazing
       [ ] boss/secretary:  [ ] harrassment  [ ] negotiating raise
       [ ] Teen   [ ] slut  [ ] prostitute   [ ] stripper  [ ] model
       [ ] model   [ ] porn acctress  [ ] vanilla actress
       [ ] Therapist  [ ] Doctor  [ ] Teacher  [ ] Principal
       [ ] relative    [ ] mad scientist (top)  [ ] spouse [ ] date
       [ ] Animal  [ ] Pony  [ ] Dog   [ ] cat  [ ] other: _________

       [ ] Other specify: ___________________________________________
       
       Details:  _____________________________________________________
 
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    - Alchohol consumption
      top may not be        [ ] under influence  [ ] seriously impaired
      bottom may not be     [ ] under influence  [ ] seriously impared
      [ ] consume as part of scene   [ ] top   [ ] bottom


   [ ] other (specify):  _________________________________________

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