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Parents and BDSM CONTINUED
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Firstly, you are an adult, and you are entitled to an adult life. You do not have to feel ashamed that you practice an alternate style of making love. Delving into your fantasies, and playing out sexual scenes with your partner is perfectly natural. Sometimes, as parents, we feel we have to live up to an invisible "standard" that we believe society holds for us. We feel that if we don't, we will be viewed as 'bad' parents. If you are private with your sexual practices, and are careful where you store your toys, there is no reason to think that BDSM would influence your children negatively. Some tips for keeping your BDSM private (away from prying eyes and little hands):

If your kids are young, keep toys hidden on a high shelf. If they are older, invest in a locked trunk, and keep the keys on your keychain.

Before play, decide which parent is going to be the one to answer the door should a child come knocking. Of course, if one person is to be tied up, they won't be answering the door.

Keep a bathrobe on the back of the door, or near the door. If you need to answer the door, you can throw this on quickly. Bathrobes will fit over most gear that you might be wearing.

Invest in a locking doorknob for your bedroom. There is nothing wrong with being able to lock your door when you want privacy. (if you play anywhere else in the house, get a locking doorknob there as well, just be sure there is a way to unlock it from the outside in an emergency. Kids are notorious for locking themselves in and not being able to get out!)

Teach your children to knock! Explain that you, as adults, need time to yourselves, and just like when someone is in the bathroom, it is polite to knock.

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