Three Types of Spanking
by
Julnick
Reprinted with Julnick's kind permission.
Information is vital when I spank. I need to know exactly what
the bottom is looking to get out of a spanking. Almost always I
play with a safeword, but there are exceptions. Even saying that
gives me chills, I am very afraid of playing without a safeword,
but in what I do, sometimes it is necessary to reach thedesired
goal. At those times, I take the responsibility for seeing when
something is wrong, psychologically, ie tripping over childhood
baggage. I do not do any bondage or D/s so technical
difficulties, such as twisted ankles, or cut wrists aren't a
problem. I suppose that the type of scene I'm talking about
without a safeword would be my "heavy" type of scene. It is
strongly psychological, and it is more dangerous physically.As
well as being extremely difficult technically for me as a top.
I'll back up for a moment, and try to lay this out in logical
fashion. I basically do three different types/styles of spanking.
I give, what I call, erotic spankings, punishment spankings, and
breaking spankings. Now the lines can blur somewhat between
these, a punishment spanking can lead to more erotic activities,
a breaking spanking can as well, but for different reasons. But
the actual spankings break down into distinct categories.
1. Erotic spanking - Pretty self explainatory, there may be a
little role play, the physical intensity is lower, and the actual
tecnique is different, it mixes spanks with more pleasant
touches, etc.
2. Punishment spanking - I have many bottoms who have fantasies
about punishment and want to roleplay it. I have given few true
punishment spankings, but they were given like this: For true,
and serious offense,something that I was truly angry about, not
as revenge for being wronged. The best example is driving drunk.
A friend who drove drunk received the harshest punishment I've
ever given. There is a great deal of psychology involved. I
generally do not spank OTK for things like that.. I do not use my
hand, I do not touch him in any way. I create a distance, leaving
him isolated. I give him corner time, before during and after the
spanking. Again, creating a distance between us. I do not use
comforting words. I use hisr full name. I keep my voice cold, and
unemotional. I am unsympathetic. When I strap him, I require him
to come into position again after each stroke, if he does not do
it immediately, another stroke is laid, which does not count
towards the total. I do not tell him the total number of strokes
or the length of the spanking. This takes away thesecurity of
counting. Counting gives him, 1. a distraction, a focus for his
attention, and 2. a goal to look towards, an end in sight. I take
that away, and he is left in limbo, uncertain. It creates
agitaion, it creates fear, it creates an unpleasant psychological
and emotional state. It deprives the bottom of enjoyment of the
spanking. The actual technique is designed to be unpleasant, not
to allow the bottom to process each spank. It is a hard spanking
from the beginning, each swat is designed to be as painful as
possible. The speed is fast and unrelenting, to overwhelm the
defenses.
3. Breaking spanking - Basically meaning a spanking designed to
break down thewill, break down emotional barriers. This is
designed around specific psychological elements. There are two
subsets of this spanking type, there is regression, and there is
simple compassion/safety. Within the group of men who desire this
spanking, there are some who need to be regressed,
psychologically, brought down to a child-like state, where it is
acceptable to cry. And some just need to be taken to a place
where they feel safe enough, and insured enough against ridicule
that they can let go and cry. This spanking involves alot of
pain, physically, to overwhelm the emotional barriers. Also, with
the pain is a good deal of psychological action, weakening the
barrier in tandem with the action of the spanking. For these
spankings, OTK is very important. It feels vulnerable, but
vulnerable to the top, not to the world in general. It also feels
child-like, being over the knee. Spanking with the hand is
important, it feels personal,connected. Touch is vital, the top
is taking the bottom to a very firghtening place in his head.,
tearing down that wall is going against very strong, nearly
survival instincts. There is going to be alot of panic and
resistance as that begins to happen. The top needs to "hold the
hand" of the bottom throughout, constantly reassure the bottom,
constantly, touch, pet, give physical comfort., as well as verbal
comfort, constant reassurances, soft tone of voice, as if
speaking to a terrified child, because that is what it can be
equated to. Also, the top needs to know how to push and back off,
in order to get through strong resistance, without driving the
bottom to try and get up. Generally a the woman is going to be
smaller, and have less upper body strength than the man. If the
top pushes too hard, the man may panic and break away. If the top
does not push enough, then the spanking will not reach the goal.
It is a constant balancing act, pushing hard, but keeping the
bottom feeling safe enough to get through it.
I think that in at least some of the spankings I do, I'm not
playing a game, it isn't about enjoyment, or dominance or
submission, its about opening up and touching souls. Its dealing
in emotion, in very fragile hearts and psyches. After a breaking,
and often after a punishment, I will hold the bottom, and they
will often cry, and cling to me, for a long time, completely
vulnerable. And my heart is open, exposed as I do this, because
otherwise I couldn't feel them, I couldn't touch them the way
they need to be touched. That is the responsibility I feel. As a
top, I can never let go, I have to be constantly aware, balancing
many plates that are too too precious to risk even for a moment.
I don't want to give that responsibility away, I want to see it
through until all those plates are safely down again. But
sometimes I envy the bottom, who is given the freedom of having
someone else hold their soul for a while.
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