Do you have something you want to ask an experienced submissive? There is nothing too simple to ask and the only stupid question is the unasked question. Send your questions to Lisa at webslave@clpw.net. If I don't know the answer, I'll pass it to someone that does.
Dear Subby:
Recently I have been collared by a Dom that lives in Florida. I live in NY. I love him with all my heart but I don't know how to handle the long distance relationship until I can move to him. I need some advice on things I can do to make us feel as close as if we were actually together.
Desperate
Dear Desperate,
This is a question that has many answers - there are many things you can do, depending on how long it is till you're moving.
Set small goals for yourself - take one day at a time.
Set aside time for you to talk online or on the phone. By having a particular day that you know you will be talking to him allows you to have something to look forward to.
Put a picture of him on your computer desktop, so you see him all the time.
Ask his permission to write a journal every night as if you were talking to him. Tell him how much you miss him, what you are afraid of, what you are happy and sad about. Use a pen, so you can't erase and don't delete what you write. This will allow him to see what you are feeling.
Paint one of your fingernails a different color and tell him that you are doing this to be reminded of him. Every time you look down at your hand, you will think of him. When people ask what it is, you can tell them it's to remind you of someone, or to count down the days/weeks/months until you are together.
Find a store that sells newspapers from other cities and get a Sunday paper each week and begin looking for a job, if it's ok with him. This will get you motivated and give you an idea on what's going on there.
Get information about Florida and daydream about your wonderful future!
Lisa
Dear Subby,
My Master is wanting another submissive. Does this mean I am not good enough? How can this work out?
Worried
Dear Worried,
My Master and I are a part of a triad - there is another submissive in our relationship. He and I have been together for over 2 years and she has been with us for almost a year. The key to it working is that she and I were friends before He ever took her in. The other part is that He and I talked about it before it happened and I understand that I am His and that I am number one to Him and the she is number one to us. There has to be a "pecking order" for it to work (for us). This does not mean that He loves me any less or that I am not enough for him. What we do is share out life and love with someone else and that pleases us both. There is not any jealousy with the way things are. Hope this helps.
Lisa
Dear Subby,
Hello! I am a submissive woman that is part of the study cell group. I want to thank you for your hard work on the web page as it is very well put together and informative as well.
I was wondering if you have any idea where my master and I can get information on Japanese Bondage. He is very interested in the technique, but we have been unable to find literature on HOW to do it. On the web, there are several sites that show pictures of it, but none of the technique involved. I would appreciate anything you can come up with on this. If you have any suggestions on whom I can speak to regarding this matter, I would appreciate it. Thank you again!
Searching
Dear Searching,
Thank you for your kind words... :)
There is a section in Screw the Roses, Send Me Thorns (Philip Miller/Molly Devon) that covers some rope techniques. It is very informative and has pictures to help guide him through step by step. There are tips for using rope on the wrists, ankles, body harness, and breast bondage. After getting these down, he'll have the knowledge to build on. Friends of ours have gone to Hancock's Fabrics and bought different color ropes to use for rope bondage. They have red, black, and other colors (plus it is very soft!!) Screw the Roses... can be purchased locally, but they will probably have to order it. You can also go to http://www.barnesandnoble.com and buy it there. You can also contact Molly directly to order it - 908-291-9213 is the last number I had for Mystic Publications. She is on AOL as writermol - there is information in her profile
Hope this helps!! Please let me know how it goes!!
Lisa
