Rituals we have found are very important in our D/s lifestyle. For the most part they make me quit whatever I am doing and focus all my attention on my Sir. To learn more about rituals and how ours got started read subspace's D/s Rituals

Two tips about rituals is that they must be easy and constant.

greeting ritual

Our greeting ritual is for when Lord Koi comes home. I am to kneel then bend over and have my hands out-stretched and my face on the ground. The second I hear the door open, I am to rush to the bedroom door and get in the greeting ritual position. Lord Koi will come in and walk around. I am to not speak and to not move. Once Lord Koi leans over and kisses the back of my neck I am allowed to rise and kiss him. This is always supposed to happen. Whether from a day of work or from a trip to the grocery store.

shaving ritual

Shaving pubic hair is a large tradition in the bdsm community. Most owned submissives are made to shave, female and male. This allows even the most private of parts to be open and seen by the Dominant. Shaving can be sensual and it can also be a nervous step for a new submissive. For tips see (insert webpage) about shaving correctly. *wink* It does feel lovely and clean down there when you are freshly shaven *wink*
Our shaving ritual is me shaving my leg, underarm, and full pubic hair and then letting Lord Koi inspect my shaving talents. He can critique and make me correct my shaving. I have to shave every 4 days and Lord Koi keeps track of this time elapsement.

** There is some well known humiliation techiniques of shaving the whole body. This is more common for male submissives. Also, shaving the pubic hair is humiliation for some male submissives. In Nazi Germany women who slept with high ranking officials who were married had their hair ritualistically shaved, and were ostricized until their hair grew back.

urination ritual

This is common amoung D/sers but can be considered fearful to those looking into the realm of D/s.
Some facts to point out is:
1. Urine is sterile when it comes out of the body.
2. Bacteria can get into the fluid from the surrounding areas. Men tend to be cleaner than women around this area.
3. Only use watersports when you are both healthy. Please remember Safe, Sane, and Consensual.

Our urination ritual is when Lord Koi has to urinate, when I notice this I am to kneel beside the toilet until he is mostly done. I am to clean him off with my mouth and then rise up and kiss him gently. This is something we feel inforces the D/s aspects of our lives. We do understand like many aspects of D/s it is not for everyone. This ritual is not practiced when either of us our sick or feeling bad. Safety before everything in this ritual.

bedtime ritual

Many real-time couples have bedtime rituals. This is our ritual and feel free to change it a bit and make it your own :).

I am to kneel as in the greeting ritual with my face down and hands outstretched on the floor next to Lord Koi's side of the bed. If he is asleep I am allowed to wake him up. I gently wake him up and ask if I am able to get into bed for the night. He allows me into the bed and I crawl onto my side. He pulls the covers of the bed away and tied my left foot to the bed. I am never allowed to untie this unless Lord Koi has already gone to class or work. He tucks me in with certain covers and a cute stuffed hippo :)). I usually drift off with happy thoughts and it makes my day complete and makes me feel like Lord Koi is really taking care of me like a good Dominant should. :)

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